Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce’s engagement news had the internet buzzing — including our own StyleBlueprint post. We captioned it with a joyful: “Our favorite cat lady is getting hitched and we couldn’t be happier for her! Congrats to Taylor and Travis!” Most people celebrated alongside us, but one lone comment chimed in with: “Best Wishes not Congratulations.”
And there it is: proof that even in moments of pure joy, someone will correct your choice of words.
Traditionally, etiquette guides suggested saying “Best Wishes” to the bride — because “Congratulations” implied she had accomplished something by “landing” a husband. The groom, however, could be told “Congratulations.” It was a reflection of an older, patriarchal mindset. In 2025, most people agree that’s outdated. Engagements are about mutual love and partnership, not conquest. So today, “Congratulations!” is not only widely accepted but expected.
Still, moments like this remind us how picky people can be when it comes to milestones and celebrations. Some don’t like “Happy Memorial Day,” preferring “Honoring Memorial Day.” At baby showers, you’ll hear debates over whether to say “You look great!” (seen as appearance-focused) or “You’re glowing!” (sometimes considered patronizing). Even birthday wishes can stir opinions — is it “Happy Belated Birthday” or “Belated Happy Birthday”?
The truth is, language around life events is loaded with history and personal preference. What one person sees as a joyful, automatic expression of goodwill, another might interpret as careless or incorrect. Social media amplifies those corrections — someone is always ready to point out the “right” way to celebrate.
But here’s the thing: policing well-meaning words of joy often misses the point. Engagements, weddings, babies, birthdays, and milestones are about connection, not perfection. If someone says “Congratulations,” “Best Wishes,” or even “Woohoo!,” it’s coming from the same place — happiness for you.
So, whether you’re team “Best Wishes” or team “Congrats,” maybe the best etiquette rule of all is this: accept joy where it’s given, and resist the urge to nitpick. After all, isn’t love worth celebrating in any form?
Liza Graves
As CEO of StyleBlueprint, Liza also regularly writes for SB. Most of her writing is now found in the recipe archives as cooking is her stress relief!