The Recipe: A Perfect Holiday Food Gift
The Recipe is actually a drink in our family. Commoners may call it eggnog, but no one that I know would ever ask for that drink here. Come the first days of December, we start to ask one another, "Did you make The Recipe yet?"



And then, once the whites were in the stiff peak form, “Fold them in, Mike. FOLD THEM. FOLD. You’re Stirring! For Christ’s sake, Mike, FOLD! Okay, good! You’re folding. Keep folding! STOP! Stop folding!”
Suffice it to say, the lanky, easy-going, dimple chinned All-American flyboy chickened out on the conversation that he had hoped to have with my father. It would have helped if he had been able to remember his own name. Mike departed the next morning following a sumptuous breakfast of Advil, Gatorade and bacon, tail between his legs, cold diamond ring in his pocket.
Once married, we moved around the country on our Navy adventure, and at Christmas time, we took continued comfort in The Recipe. In Iceland, or New Orleans, Corpus Christi, Texas, or Brunswick, Maine, we always had access to beaters, booze, some cream and eggs. It was a taste that we knew year to year, and it packed a buzz to beat the blues of being away from home. When my husband was deployed for half a year at a time, I would still make the drink and share it with new friends from around the world.
When we moved to Louisville, where Mike began a career as a pilot with UPS, we found ourselves in an unfamiliar place. No Navy people or military bases to be found. No beach or water. No family. No friends. Lots of people who had known each other since before they were born. Despite the good intentions of many kind-hearted people, it was a lonely time for us. Finally, we were guided to a family that we felt could truly love and know us. They brought us food when our baby was born. They invited us to their school and their home. They called us on the phone, and invited us when friends were coming over. We shared many adventures together, and when we made our decision to move, finally, back home, they embraced us, celebrated us, and hoped that we would stay.
With them, we decided to set The Recipe free.
So, one night during the anticipation of Advent, we dropped in on the Shiflets armed with bacchanalian weaponry: a glass bowl, a dozen eggs, dairy galore (should have just brought a cow) and an obscene amount of cheap liquor from Party Mart on Brownsboro Road. We taught Jill and Mark how to “Fold…NOT LIKE THAT. You’ve got to FOLD them, Mark!” egg whites, and how sprinkle the slightest bit of nutmeg atop the frothy glasses. And in those hours, with children running loose, beaters chattering and fumes capable of spontaneous combustion filling the kitchen, we were able to commune with friends who had made a difference to us. We dropped our loneliness. We felt like we, too, had maybe known someone here since before we were born, and we were very, very thankful.
Making The Recipe can be a grand celebration and a shared experience that can create memories to span a lifetime. The Recipe can also strap you down, put a lampshade on your head and send you fearlessly out the door to streak naked through Rolling Fields. (True Story.) The Recipe can be a gift to give to a friend, or if you’re lucky during the busy holiday season, to yourself. My hope is that each one of you will be able to find a moment just for you, by your tree or anywhere, where you can toast what has passed and consider the joy that could be born in each of us during the coldest, darkest time of the year. Each one of us has our own secret recipe for that kind of hope.
Cheers!


The Recipe
Ingredients
- 12 eggs
- 2 1/3 cups sugar
- 2 cups cognac
- 1 cup Jamaica rum
- 1 cup peach brandy
- 6 cups whole milk feel free to substitute 1% - reduce sugar to 2 cups if you do
- 2 cups heavy cream you can reduce it to 1/2 and 1/2
Instructions
- Separate eggs. Beat Yolks until they foam. Add booze SLOWLY. Then add sugar. Add milk and cream.
- This next part is really important. You need to beat the hell out of the egg whites. Beat them into a stiff, hard meringue. Then, SLOWLY, FOLD them into the egg and liquor mixture.
- This drink is best served chilled. Top glasses with nutmeg. YUM!!!!
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