Friends are the family you get to choose, and for Rebekah and Michael Barger, their wedding was not only a celebration of their love, but a tangible illustration what true friends do for one another when there’s a need. With their sights set on a sizable, summertime, outdoor wedding and a modest budget to make their dreams come true, here’s how event planner (and interior stylist at Nest Interiors) Stephanie Van Hoesen and some amazingly generous friends made Rebekah and Michael’s big day such a beautiful one:

Stephanie:

First, let me say how wonderful it was to work with the community that the bride and groom call their family. It was an amazing experience to partner with people who would do just about anything to make this wedding possible. And not only were they willing to pitch in, they were all extremely talented! It was like having all of East Nashville at my fingertips—a wedding coordinator’s dream.

With a small budget and a large guest list of 200, I was a bit nervous when Rebekah and Michael approached me about their outdoor June wedding. I didn’t know if it was possible to create the wedding of their dreams within this budget. But, they are friends of mine and so very much in love; how could I say no?! So of course, I said yes. My challenge? To create a $20,000 wedding for $5,000.

(Photos courtesy of Justin Harvey.)

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First, a little about the bride and groom: Rebekah is the owner and Artistic Director of Fall, a contemporary and aerial dance company. Michael is the wine and spirits “Hoperator” at Bounty Bev. They met at church—The Anchor Fellowship—and quickly realized they shared numerous mutual friends, as well as a love of good whiskey and sci-fi (they particularly bonded over Firefly). Says Rebekah, “At a Sunday evening service at church, Michael asked me to stay after to help him change out some light-bulbs (he generally helps out there with things like that). Once everyone else had left, we proceeded to change 4 lightbulbs before he stepped down off the ladder and got down on one knee.”

So how did we pull it off? We had to overcome the the biggest challenge first of finding the location for the ceremony and a reception for 200 people. We needed an outdoor location that had an open field for a large tent and a facility that would accommodate the wedding party, the catering company, and my design team for $1500 or less. The average cost for such a place is $3,000-10,000. But lucky for us, we found the perfect place in Pegram, TN–Harmony Landing (about 20 minutes outside of Nashville). The property is absolutely beautiful and included a rustic cabin that sleeps 14 (lots of room for the wedding party to get ready), a large kitchen that made catering and floral arrangements a breeze, and a huge living/dining room that was perfect for a décor staging area. We had the place to ourselves for the entire weekend, making set up and clean up a dream.

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Italian lights were strung throughout the tent and around the grounds.

The next challenge was renting a large tent. The groom called in a favor and we were able to get a 30″ x 60″ tent for a third of the cost. The groom arranged for his groomsmen to be available for set up and tear down of the tent, as well as any heavy lifting, so we didn’t have to pay our rental companies a set-up/tear-down fee.

The most important thing to the bride and groom were the guests. They wanted all their friends and family to be there, and they wanted a big party, so there was no negotiating on the guest list. And as you may know, catering can get expensive. So what do you do in the South for an outdoor summer wedding on a budget? Barbecue, of course. We chose Martin’s BBQ in Nolensville, TN.

To keep costs down, my dear friend and event coordinator extraordinaire Lea Collins volunteered her time and organized a team of volunteers to help with catering services and general set up. She also ran the logistics on the day of the wedding. Such a gem!

Once we had the the “biggies” nailed down, the bride and I focused on décor. The overall feel was a vintage-modern, hand-crafted garden wedding. We went to thrift stores, borrowed from friends and family, used items from my prop closet and did a lot of DIY. We rented tables, chairs and linens through Music City Events (my go to rental company—love them!). All of our foundational pieces were in white to give a clean backdrop to our eclectic collection of décor.

For table décor, which you’ll see below in the photos, the bride and groom wanted to combine elements that expressed who they are. The bride is an avid reader and collector of old books and, you guessed it, comic books. The groom has a great affection for fine whiskey and cigars, and they both love the outdoors and all things vintage. My challenge was to come up with a concept that incorporated these elements, while creating an aesthetic that was congruent and elegant. Take a look:

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We collected vintage lace tablecloths and curtains from thrift stores and used them as overlays. Each centerpiece had a collection of books wrapped in twine, vintage candle holders (also found at local thrift stores). The cocktail tables were decorated with a whiskey bottle with a floral arrangement and a comic book mason jar candle holder. (Yes, a comic book candle holder, decoupaged by yours truly and a wonderful team of volunteers.)

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Alstromeria, hydrangea, allium, snapdragons, mums, lavender and lots of greenery comprised the flower selection. I took care of the flower arranging had to get creative and work with what was in season. The bride gave me her color choices and left the rest up to me. I normally work with local florists and wholesalers, but my flower budget was small and I wasn’t willing to skimp, so I went to Trader Joe’s and the Publix near Fieldstone Farms (they are wonderful to work with!) I did splurge a little and picked up dried lavender from Garden Delights for the bride’s bouquet.

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The groom’s brother cut wood slices for the bases of our centerpieces.

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Here are the ushers, ready for the wedding. We kept the decor for the ceremony simple and elegant and chose a beautiful area on the property that was full of trees and then strung twinkle lights throughout the space.

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The bride wanted to have the wedding day photos of both parents and grandparents incorporated into the guestbook and gift table, so that’s where I drew my inspiration. I gave the table a sense of history, as if you happened to find this table in the attic. I used a collection of vintage trunks, lace, milk glass vases and little odds and ends I found at local shops around town.

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Guests were invited to sign a copy of a favorite book that Rebekah gave Micahel as a gift early on in their dating relationship.

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The gents.

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And the ladies.

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The bride’s bouquet was dried lavendar wrapped in twine with her grandmother’s handkerchief.

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The beautiful bride with her father, and a note from Rebekah about her gown: “Kelly Landry, my very dear friend (and seamstress/costume designer) designed and created my dress by modifying the pattern for a vintage 30s style evening gown. The best part of having a friend custom design your dress? Going together to see The Hobbit, leaning over to whisper “Can my dress have Galadriel sleeves?” and her instant response, “Totally.”

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The groom and his son, walking down the aisle.

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We found the cutest dresses on Modcloth! It was important to the bride that the girls did not wear typical bridesmaid dresses. She wanted them to have a vintage feel, but with a modern flair. And it was important that each girl wore a different style. Plus, the groomsmen were going to be wearing black and white, with suspenders and Chucks. The dresses needed a little sass, so we curated a list of dresses from Modcloth, and then let the girls choose. The combination was perfect!

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Dear friend to the bride and groom and baker Desiree Peacock, of Gingernapz Bake, was responsible for the wedding cake and pick-up sweet bites.

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Desiree made 250 mini cheesecakes in 3 different flavors (salted caramel chocolate, honey lemon lavender, ginger peach blueberry), and also the regular-sized, double-layere strawberry swirl cheesecake with chocolate ganache.

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For Rebekah and Michael, the most important aspect of their wedding day was for it to feel natural. Rebekah says they wanted everything to be “personal and intentional, with significance behind every detail.” She goes on to say that, “apparently that day, there was so much love in the air, it was contagious. One of our photographers met one of Michael’s friends that day, and my sister met another of Michael’s friends, and both couples have been together ever since!” What more can you ask for, for the most important day of your life?

Thank you Stephanie, and thank you Rebekah and Michael for sharing your story!

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