On Mondays, we frequently shine a light on an amazing Southern woman who is making an impact on her city and beyond. We call the series “FACES of the South” because these women are the “faces” of positive change, inspiring endurance and amazing grit. In every interview, we ask them to share the words of wisdom that have changed their lives. Here is each of our 2019 FACES of the South’s response to the question: What is your best piece of advice, and if applicable, who gave it to you?
We hope you glean a bit of wisdom — we sure did!
The Best Advice from Our 2019 FACES
Jessica Honegger: One piece of advice that’s changed me on this crazy journey came from brilliant author and thinker Andy Crouch, who talks about the importance of having rhythms for your life and holding yourself to them. That includes not just having rhythms for working and being productive, but for rest, too. I’m a future-oriented person, so it’s hard for me to make space for rest. I am always thinking ahead to the next thing I could be doing. But by committing to a life rhythm that includes space for rest and holding myself to it, I’m able to remember better that life is not all about the hustle. And, ultimately, that rest is going to allow me to keep going for the long haul. Image: Submitted
Sandy Howard: You can always achieve what you work for — my brother (Tim McGraw) taught me that. Image: Leila Grossman of Grannis Photography
Jennifer Appleby: I’ve been given a lot of great advice over the years, but these are my top three: 1) Have a great attorney, banker and accountant. 2) Never fall in love with the person in the mirror. 3) There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t support other women. Image: Piper Warlick of Piper Warlick Photography
Maiesha McQueen: Keep trying to be authentically you. I think it’s a really good piece of advice for my business because you always have people telling you what you are and are not right for. Sometimes it can taint your sense of self. It’s really good to just do the work, and dig deeper into who you really are and who you want to be. Image: Maiesha McQueen
Kallen Blair: Too many people have given me amazing advice! I am incredibly grateful for the people who have been placed in my life. This is not a piece of advice, but a mentor of mine recently sent me a message and signed it, “Wishing you bravery and abandon today.” I wrote that out and put it on my wall. What if we all lived in “bravery and abandon” every day? I think it’s a lovely thought.
Alie B. Gorrie: My acting teacher in the city happens to work a lot with Simon Sinek, author of the book Start With Why. She spreads his message to us constantly: It’s not about WHAT you do, but WHY you do it. I am always coming back to my “why?”. Because if we aren’t living every day based on our own personal “why,” then what’s all this for? Image: Submitted
Stacy Brown (aka “Chicken Salad Chick”): The best piece of advice I have ever received came from my mother. She told me to never fear change. Depend on it. When things are going well, do not take them for granted, because things will change. When things are going badly, do not let that paralyze you because things will change. Image: Emily Jane
Karen Anderson of Tiny Doors Atlanta: I asked a friend whose career I admire, Emily Saliers of Indigo Girls, how to cope when your career starts to get overwhelming. She told me, “Find something you love about your job and do more of it. Find the thing you dislike the most and don’t do it, or do less of it. Everything in between is just your job.” Image: Catrina Maxwell of CatMax Photography
Jenn Andrews of Move For Jenn: Never put limits on yourself or allow anyone else to either. You are capable of anything and everything, even when there are obstacles in your view. Mindset is everything. Image: Piper Warlick Photography
Rose-Marie Swift: “Less is more.” I love that. Image: Leila Grossman of Grannis Photography
Mary Laura Philpott: I tend to worry over things, and I have a good friend who always turns my worry around on me. Like when someone hasn’t texted me back within a day, and I’m sure they’re mad at me — or dead — she’ll say, “Well, when you don’t text someone back immediately, is it because you’re mad or dead? Or just busy?” Image: Leila Grossman of Grannis Photography
Alli Webb of Drybar: I have always had a tendency to react and respond immediately. I have learned the benefit of thinking things through before we make any decisions or react impulsively, and as founders, we want to react to everything and manage everything immediately. Business moves so fast, especially in the entrepreneurial stages, and it’s so important to pause and look at the big picture and overall goals of what you are trying to achieve. Image: Submitted
Dr. Frances Tunnell Carter: Women can be catty if we want to be, and you know what I mean by catty. But try to be human about everything. Try to work alongside each other — women and men, and be your own person. Show respect for each other. Show love for each other. Just be good to one another. Image: Eric & Jamie Gay of Eric & Jamie Photography
Jenny Lewis: Recently, I was struggling with something and my husband commented: “Don’t stumble over what’s already behind you.” I refer to that at least three times a week now. Image: Leila Grossman of Grannis Photography
Renée Hicks: To not be afraid to be myself. That there is a place in this world for me and all my crazy ideas. I can definitely see that now through Book Girl Magic. Image: Catrina Maxwell of CatMax Photography
Jennifer Morgan: Before my husband and I were married 14 years ago, our priest gave us this advice on marriage: Be kind. Be kind. Be kind. I try to apply that to nearly everything I do — how I treat my spouse, my children, the clerk at the grocery store, my neighbor, my body, my friends and myself. Image: Catrina Maxwell of CatMax Photography
Tanya Tucker: Like I said, get out there and perform everywhere you can. You never know who’s listening or paying attention. Image: Danny Clinch
Pardis Stitt: Be compassionate. Image: Eric and Jamie Gay of Eric & Jamie Photography
Bettina Benson: Always identify your intention for doing whatever you are doing, know the way behind the why, and use that as your guide. This helps you set proper boundaries and guard your time. If it doesn’t tie back to your intention, it may not be worth the time or effort; if it does, then go for it. Most importantly, always trust your intuition. Image: Catrina Maxwell of CatMax Photography
Granny Rich: Be caring and loving and look at everything in a positive way, instead of looking for the bad in everybody and everything. We sometimes think things are the end of the world, but it’s not. The world keeps turning, and good things keep happening. Image: Leila Grossman of Grannis Photography
Geri Giagnorio of Geri G. Beauty: One thing I wish everyone knew about their skin is that over-exfoliating agitates and ages the skin prematurely. It’s one of the first things everyone goes to with any skin symptom, but it often causes more damage. Image: Leila Grossman of Grannis Photography
Kim DeLaney-Surratt: When I first moved to Charlotte, I actually started an event planning company. My business partner at the time — I remember he said to me, “We have to fake it until we make it.” We landed some pretty big contracts that we probably should not have. People trusted us before even knowing the caliber of our work. Image: Piper Warlick Photography
Elaine Sterling: Do what scares you. Image: Catrina Maxwell of CatMax Photography
Mercedes Cotchery: I was at a banquet, and the keynote speaker was saying how she needs to make sure that she takes time to fill her own cup. In an effort to be her best self, in all the different areas where she’s going to be, she needs to take the time to fill herself up every morning. It’s so that as she goes about her day, and she’s pouring a little bit of herself out, she’s got something to give. Image: Piper Warlick Photography
Katie Jones: “You can always find something positive in everyone.” — my Grandpa “Choo-Choo” | Image: CatMax Photography
Annie Cobetto: “Never underestimate the power of positive thinking,” and “Read The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy.” Both pieces of advice were from my dear friend Justin Levenson. Image: Jessa Mayhew
A HUGE thank you to all of these incredible women and their wealth of advice!
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